Tantrums Rule?

by Mum Dee on June 5, 2010

My son -in-law sent me a news article that I found so shocking. xinhuanet.com It had never occured to me that something like this could happen. This is how the article began.

“Taking a deep drag on his cigarette while resting on the steering wheel of his truck, he looks like a parody of a middle-aged lorry driver.”

The journalist is referring to a two year old! Yup, only two years old and smoking forty cigarettes a day. What! How is this possible! When did he start smoking??? I wonder if someone thought that it was “cute” when they gave him his first cigarette to try?

This little boy, who lives in Indonesia, has failing health. Go figure! His mother is in tears over his condition and his father doesn’t see a problem. If I give the father the benefit of doubt I can consider that perhaps he doesn’t realize that cigarette smoking is unhealthy . This reminds me of when back in the first half of the twentieth century, here in North America, people did not seem to know that smoking could ruin your health. I guess it wasn’t that obvious or something.

If he doesn’t get his cigarettes he has a fit. Talk about pandering to your child to the point of his total demise! Even the town officials realize that this is a problem and have offered the family a reward if they can get the kid to quit smoking. His parents unfortunately feel unable to stop him because of the terrible tantrums he throws.

Wow, they must be some afraid of this child to be willing to continue to support this expensive and deadly habit. I wonder how his father will feel when his child’s health completely fails. Perhaps then he will sum up the courage to confront his child’s temper and put a stop to this insanity. I hope it will not be too late to save his life.

We see the same thing happening when a parent gives in to a screaming child and gives them what they want because they don’t  feel able to stop the tantrums. How many people will let a kid have whatever they want to eat even if it is not a healthy food choice because the kid will have a fit otherwise? Isn’t this the same behavior? Most parents in our culture would draw a line at cigarette smoking. Too bad they don’t realize that they can draw the line wherever they want to.

What do you think?

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Mariah June 5, 2010

“Too bad they don’t realize that they can draw the line wherever they want to.”
This is a great line, mom! I think I tend to forget this… =( I wonder WHY I forget that I can make the boundaries wherever I choose? Grown-up peer-pressure?? I’m really not sure.

Mum Dee June 6, 2010

I guess we often worry what other people will think about how we raise our children. The bottom line is that the child’s parents are the ones that are responsible for the their child’s upbringing so they really need to make their decisions according to what will ultimately be best for their child not what is popular.

Mum Dee June 10, 2010

Check out the followup article in The Sun There is even a video of him smoking. It is rather creepy to see how adept he is at handling a cigarette. It demonstrates how much time he must spend with a cigarette in his hand.
He apparently has cut down to 15 cigarettes a day. I guess the family finally gave in to the pressure generated by all the publicity and have allowed him to be helped by a therapist. Yay for professional help!!

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